I am maybe maybe perhaps not anything that is re-reading Raindrop. I am let’s assume that you are stating that the very fact those two dudes disrespected her boundaries is her very own fault for -gasp! – being up for a threesome within the first place. Fuck that. Have you got the same attitude toward a woman who’s raped because “logic” states she should never have used a brief dress or had a couple of products? You are a troll and logic dictates to ignore every term from the intercourse negative lips.

@37 Dan is just a genuine guy, could perhaps not concur more.

@68: i am perhaps not saying its her fault. But she describes being in multiple circumstances whenever her boundaries are not respected and calls it a nightmare that is fucking.

And you then get read the article spinning up situations of that which you guess my mindset may be. What’s going on with this?

You are getting flustered in your replies in my opinion. We must-have hit a nerve.

@62: “we didn’t ask for stranger’s SSN. I did son’t ask where he works. We asked a rather basic and common concern: what now? For a full time income? He asked us those questions. Therefore maybe perhaps maybe not reciprocating had been shady as fuckedy fuck if you ask me. “

If he asked you those concerns but would not reciprocate, yes, that is definitely shady. We already stated the maximum amount of, therefore I’m uncertain in which the sarcastic “We did not require their business that is SSN” is from.

Effortless types of somebody who’d have reason that is good will not answer ” exactly exactly What would you do for a living”: a cop, an elementary-school instructor, a medication dealer, a part for the clergy. Then again, clearly, they ought ton’t ask the question that is same.

@71: BucksFan is close to this. For all those tiresome people you receive frustrated at being asked their occupation, a courteous basic industry or self-employed answer must have been the reaction.

@61 ‘But exactly what does a lady do? “911, I’d want to report a crisis: The men in my own threesome are increasingly being assholes and I’d like you to definitely escort them from the property. ” ‘

As the cops do not police assholishness, they do come collect people for trespass (if the guest does not keep whenever you let them know they are now unwanted), domestic dispute (fighting along with your resident asshole), domestic disruption (loudly fighting), intimate attack (whenever you withdraw permission plus they don’t back away) or any other crimes based your jurisdiction.

Really, i favor to own trusted buddies that don’t mind chilling out in another space over, if i will be otherwise outnumbered by brand brand new visitors, however when things get wrong the authorities can frequently be the less alternative that is bad.

Ok, gonna concur that Raindrop is getting into “shaming” territory right here. In terms of Msh @44, we’ve a policy of thinking intimate assault/harassment victims (of most genders, BTW) – but that is maybe perhaps perhaps not the subject here. Right right Here we are just speaing frankly about assholes. And, as BDF demonstrated, if any girl can call anybody an asshole, well, she simply called you an asshole therefore. Shrug.

DollarsFan: you had beenn’t to blame, as you can not be faulted for trusting your bf to own your straight back and vet properly also. Having said that, for future MMF threesomes, you are most likely going to be much more comfy utilizing the policy that is sex-on-the-third-date of meeting first, club/drinks/makeout fulfilling second, nookie on 3rd. I am talking about, even that is not a guarantee, nonetheless it does help weed away a few of the crap. All the best on getting a fantastic MMF one of these simple times – individuals undoubtedly ask them to.

Traffic Spiral: That appears like a plan that is good. Thank you for the suggestion.